5 Life Lessons I Learned From Blogging

It has been five years yesterday since I started this blog (thanks Facebook memories!) Five years equals about ten thousand hours, which according to Malcom Gladwell, makes me an outlier, right?! Does that mean I’m getting rich soon??

I’ve learned a lot over the past five years, so I thought I would round up five of the most important life lessons being a blogger has taught me.

  1. Know Your Worth. Don’t be afraid to ask for fair compensation for your work, even if you are a new blogger with a small following. Figure out what it takes you to get the job done and price it out where it makes sense for you. (I’ve actually had PR Firms tell me I should ask for more money!) Of course there are lots of opportunities to collaborate, support a small business or charity you love, and in that case you can always reduce or waive your fee. If you don’t value yourself, how can you expect anyone else to? 
  2. Don’t hate, collaborate! I can’t express how important this point is. I personally love supporting my fellow bloggers and friends. I genuinely want to see my friends succeed, and trust me somehow the universe always gives it back to me. Also, it is important not to fall in to the comparison trap which can turn you in to a bitter unhappy being that no one wants to be around. If someone you know has landed an amazing project, or if they just bought your dream Chanel bag, be happy for them and just focus on creating great work. You have no idea what’s in store for you in the future, so just do you! Or if you want to compare, look at those who have much less than you do.
  3. Make it Work. Bloated? Cold Sore? No budget? It is so easy to make excuses for why you shouldn’t – but if you truly want to be successful you will need to make it happen despite the challenges. A few years ago Adam broke a glass on my face and I had to get stitches and wear a bandage on one side of my face for a month. As a result, my outfit pictures were all pretty much taken from the side view or with a hand strategically covering it – see example in this post here – but please don’t judge the outfit (cringe!). If you can’t afford a great camera, you can offer to promote a local photographer on your blog in exchange for their work. In regards to finances, let’s face it there are always going to be people who have more than you – it just forces you to be more creative, which is a good thing!
  4. Never stop learning. (You can learn anything on YouTube!) When I started I wasn’t tech savvy at all, nor did I have a clue about photography or editing. I also got my first Macbook as a gift after I started so I even had to teach myself a whole new operating system! Many many hours of trial and error, banging my head against the wall in frustration, and youtube tutorials later, I am now proud to say I’m a self-taught digital content creator! Keep an open mind and always try to improve yourself and your skills.
  5. See yourself in your best light. I got this one from my friend and blogger babe Zunera. We often criticize ourselves the most harshly, and often unfairly. Comparing our unedited to someone else’s photoshopped is just not fair. Be as kind to yourself as you would be to anyone you love. Put simply by Big Sean, ‘if you love yourself just know you’ll never be alone.’

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  • When aunties are way cooler than you...
Took my mom to see her childhood bestie (who happens to live here) and ate up all their stories about life in Pakistan before they had any kids - they were both full-time teachers, obsessed with makeup and fashion, and to my surprise - apparently very big on playing pranks on each other! They would put on a burqa and go knock on doors and scare their friends 😂 (I was like wait - are you still talking about my mom??) I’ll never judge an aunty again...
  • New Zealand. Tree of Life. Countless others...when are we going to acknowledge White Supremacy as what it actually is, TERRORISM. I directly blame Fox News and other major right wing media outlets for influencing these hateful (probably uneducated) people. When we demonize people to the level where they are inhuman (children in cages at the border) we open up the possibility to do the most evil without regard. I hesitated on posting this because I like to keep things light around here - but damn, I realize I really don’t have that privilege...ignoring the news isn’t something I can just do as a brown Muslim woman ~ my family is at the mosque every Friday praying - what I want to know is, what can we do to really make change?? Eff the NRA and all the corporations that benefit off of human suffering!
  • Don’t worry baby girl, what’s mine is yours! (Note the backward shoe in pic 3 😂) #playingdressup #momswithcameras
  • Drove mom all the way out to Devon for some Falooda and shopping - but baby Soph fell asleep and I know better than to mess with her nap time so...in the car I shall stay. #dontwakethebaby #likeever #faloodatogo
  • ‘And this one will make your skin baby soft...’
never too early to start learning proper skincare! (In reality she was trying to grab everything off of every shelf so I had to strap her in the stroller and have my mom take her outside so I could get what I needed 😂 - @anastasiabeverlyhills brow pencil, @theouai wave spray) #lesigh #momlife
  • Happy bday to my little man ~ cheers to 8 years! (And we are officially done with birthdays for the year hallelujah! 🙏🏾)
  • 15 year old Zahra would be so proud of this look ~ story time: I bought this necklace from a lady on the beach in Jamaica who was so sweet - she suggested I buy a toe ring anklet thing and I said my feet are way too ugly for that - she told me I was beautiful and sternly advised me never to say bad stuff about myself again - so I said Awww thank you! ok give me like three more shell necklaces 💁🏾‍♀️ The end.
  • DIY face mask: ingredient: Peanut butter (also yes this was a b* to clean up 😱) #momswithcameras
  • Spending some quality time with my mom this week! I’m pretty sure I got all of my best traits from her ❤️ even the ones that bother her the most...🤭 😊Also a peek at the living room progress - so far we have new paint and a new couch! Currently sourcing gold sconces, a console table for the record player, and wall art and accessories. I love shopping second-hand, vintage and artisan made, where are your favorite places to shop for home?? #internationalwomensday #mothersanddaughters

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