Tie-Front Dress and Off-Shoulder Top

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tie-front-dress-off-shoulder tie-front-dress-Dress: Nordstrom | Shoes: Chanel – Similar Style (on sale!) | Bag: Chloe | Sunnies: Ray-Ban | Stroller: Babyzen Yoyo | Bracelets: Monica Vinader | Thanks to Pali Roots

These days my outfits always require two things, 1) a low neck or a button-up for easy nursing, and 2) flat or low heeled footwear, preferably ones you can slide your foot into. Functional tops and comfort footwear sound like a recipe for some really boring and unflattering clothes, but it doesn’t have to be. Example: this tie-front dress with cut outs and button detail, layered over an off-shoulder top.

I wore this look to lunch while mom and sis were in town recently. The same two family members who were with me in Paris last year when I purchased these sandals – the same fateful day I lost my DSLR camera and a year’s worth of photos on my memory card. Le sigh. We spent an entire afternoon retracing our steps that day, spending an obscene amount of money on taxis, and crying and then laughing at our (read: my) own stupidity. These sandals were the silver lining to an otherwise dreary day, and to this day they bring me joy.

In addition to wearing my favorite shoes, I’m also employing my favorite layering trick, an off shoulder top worn under a dress or a vest. The cold shoulder look without the need for a strapless bra is a win-win IMO. Oh and the bag is actually a cross-body. If I were any more comfortable here, I’d probably be asleep.

It took me five years of blogging about style to finally understand how important is is that a wardrobe fit your lifestyle. I used to buy stuff I just thought was cool or looked great on the model, but then I never really wore. Besides ending up with a cluttered closet and nothing to wear, I also had no money left for practical clothes.I love clothes way too much to compromise my personal style simply for comfort though.

I now make sure to only buy clothes I love  that are also easy to clean (hello baby spit up!), and aren’t a pain to walk in. Side note: painful shoes should be reserved only for girls night’s out and Drake concerts. It takes a little creativity to be both stylish and comfortable enough to get through the day, but its worth the effort. When I’m comfortable, I’m confident, and confidence is what makes me feel beautiful.

In other news, you may have noticed a slow down in how often I put out new blog posts lately. I’m actually working on some really fun projects at the moment to be shared here soon (stay tuned!) but I’m also taking more time in general to unplug and do things that fuel my own creativity – more time to read books, journal, cook, play with my babies, and basically just appreciate life and all the blessings I have. In essence, it will be quality over quantity around here. My mind is still always racing with my to-do lists and blog ideas, but I just keep on telling myself to slow down and enjoy the ride. Thanks for riding with me, always xx

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  • I was looking all over for a 2009 photo to do my 10 year thing - and I finally realized why I don’t have any! Some of you may already know this, but in the beginning of 2009 I got into a bad snowmobile accident where I had to be airlifted to a hospital and ended up in a coma for 3 days and ended up having a huge hematoma in my head (thankfully it healed on its own) and I had to get surgery on my broken collarbone m that is now metal plated! You may have noticed I have one bumpy collarbone - that’s the one haha. That near death experience set in motion so many things that would change my life. Most importantly I started living life for myself, I thought about all the things I would have regretted if I actually died that day. I (first broke up with but then) got married to my love @tom_sandberg, started practicing yoga regularly, tried a lot of new hobbies including horseback riding, I had a baby, started my blog, quit my job, had another baby, and now I’m at this really weird point of life - trying to decide what’s next. Now that Sophia’s getting older I have slightly more time to invest in my career, and I’m still trying to figure out where exactly I want to put my energy. 2019 is my year of exploration ~ anyone else at a similar turning point??
  • Throwback to Sophia’s first birthday! She turns two soon and I’m at a loss for ideas...(Bahamian beach party isn’t in the cards this year) I’m a theme kinda girl so please share your ideas! #birthdaygirl #tropicalparty #bahamas
  • Notes on being an American born of Pakistani immigrants...
Thanks to @urdumom for the q’s - check my highlights for expanded answers
1. Were you ever labeled an ABCD? What did you feel about that? 
Ha! Yes - I would still consider myself an 'ABCD' (American born confused Desi) although I think 'intersectional' is what the kids are calling it these days. As a kid it was difficult navigating both cultures, simultaneously being both and neither. I still struggle with it, to be honest, but I'm just now beginning to see that it is such a blessing to be sort of an outsider. It ultimately made me much more emotionally intelligent, and also broadened my perspective. 
2. Did you get to travel to Pakistan with your parents as a kid? How was the experience? 
Yes! We traveled often - almost every year - and I absolutely loved it. As a kid it was fun playing with the goats and chickens in my dads village, or shopping in the huge maze of bazaars in the city. When I was in tenth grade, my parents even sent me to Pakistan because they thought I was getting too 'wild'. Long story short, they are so advanced in education in Pakistan, we realized me going to school there meant I had to go back two grade levels, so they gave up on that plan and the whole trip became an extended vacation. I was SO resentful that I had to come back to America! I LOVED Pakistan so much. But I also knew my parents were now out of major punishment options - so I fulfilled their prophecy and became pretty wild 😜 
3. Did you face bullying at school for being different? 
sure! My first name Itrat was something kids really liked to tease me about. 'It's a rat' was a fan favorite. Kids would laugh at me and say that my dad worked at the gas station while imitating an Indian accent like Apu from The Simpsons, and they would ask me why I'm not wearing a red dot. I remember once arguing with a girl who then called me a rag head, and I thought she meant my hair was raggedy, but my older brother filled me in that she was referencing our Muslim heritage. 
4. How did your parents keep your Pakistani roots alive at home? 
My parents are both from Pakistan, so we had the food, language, music, books
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  • Northern Cali folks, my sister Rania will be teaching a Spring course called Global Islam: Culture and Civilization - at American River College in (my hometown) Sacramento! The course is introductory but covers a wide breadth of topics including the origins of Islam, the Prophetic traditions, Arts and Literature, and modern concepts as well. There are still a couple of open spots so I wanted to spread the word in case anyone was interested! Swipe left for even more detail. Save this post, share it, spread the word! (Also side note: this is a throwback way back from Sophia’s baby shower - the most recent pic we have together because I was not about to post a flyer on the feed 💁🏾‍♀️)
  • All I need in this life of sin...p.s. a bunch of old guys kept asking us where we are ‘from’ (because obvs we couldn’t be from here 🙃) - and they couldn’t believe it was Pakistan either - im going to just say outer space next time...👽 #girlfriends #ladiesnight #gno
  • SO glad I forced myself to go out tonight with my girls, sometimes we forget how much we love each other’s company 💕 #gno #chicago #girls
  • She won’t even take a bite out of something she doesn’t like - I learn lessons from this QUEEN every damn day! 🙏🏾💕 👑 👧🏻
  • When you always think the song is about you 🎶 (Queen + Adam Lambert tour here we come!)
Also going to do more stand up comedy this year because, well - being a wife and mom - no one listens to me any more and I need my validation so...yeah
Also: wearing this coat all winter long because I’m a proud outfit repeater 👊🏽 (Also because I’m an old coat kind of girl  don’t @ me) ~
  • 1) hanging with my sister Nusrat who has been here visiting since New Year’s Eve - we are 13 months apart so basically we’re twins 👯 except when it comes to our personalities we are polar opposites ☯️ she has always been the one person who constantly humbled me  whenever I thought I was too cool (which was often) she would put me in my place (whether I liked it or not) and now as an adult I really appreciate that 
2) me doing Nusrat’s makeup as I’ve always been the resident makeup/hair/stylist in the family
 3) Sophia’s lewk 😍 
2019 is starting off pretty great I’d say!

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