Better Late: A Summer Story with Thacker NYC

floral-dress-summer-thackernycBut for real, I’m making some changes- in life – better late than never is my motto!

Well hello there friend! Welcome! I’ve got a few life updates to share with ya today! This post was hard to type, and that is not because I have some crazy long acrylic nails on right now – even though I do (seriously how do you girls do it?). But for real, I’m making some changes- better late than never is my motto!

Anyway, for the past five years since starting this blog I’ve had so many amazing experiences: from going to runway shows at NYFW to being a ‘Fashion Expert’ (side note: what IS that even?) on TV, being featured in magazines I only dreamt of being in, to attending countless Industry events where I met and befriended some of the most creative, talented, passionate people in the world.

But lately (for like the past two years or more actually), I’ve gotten a little a lot jaded. All the content I was seeing was the same, which was actually really boring to me. Not throwing shade I swear, I get it because to be successful in this game you can’t be ‘off brand’ and sometimes that means losing your true voice and unique personality.  I’ve been declining almost every ad or sponsor opportunity because I felt like I was being trapped to keep my content a certain way to please the brands I work with.

I started on my journey to find that spark I started this blog with, and just slowly started making changes without caring what the result would be. I stopped shopping at Zara and any other place I know has unethical labor practices, which also coincidentally is a turn off to many big brands (guilty, much?). And lastly, I started writing more open and honest blog posts and videos sharing my struggles with everything from religion to colorism. I told myself I’d take these next couple of years while Sophia is still a baby and explore and find what I really love to do and focus on that.

 I really love connecting with people, sharing life experiences. I also really love having fun making videos. And, I love making people laugh. So what I’ve decided I’m going to do is…(Drumroll…) Make funny videos! Yes you read that right. I’m too old and busy to be roaming around bars in Chicago doing open mic comedy shows, so I’m going to post them here. I’ve got some in the works and I already have some collaborations planned!

I tell you guys – once you decide to do something the universe makes it happen! I hope you stick with me in this new chapter of Love Zahra – and don’t you worry there will still be plenty of fashion and beauty because – your girl still gotta look fly! I mean…obviously!

Like today’s look, in this pretty and perfect-for-summer dress by Thacker NYC that has the cutest arm peeking out detail. Or my bright new bag that is the perfect orange sherbet creamsicle hue, something I also love to eat in the summer.

Thank you so much for visiting  – I love you – bye!

xx

Z
thacker-floral-tie-sleevethacker-nycthacker-nyc-dressDress + Bag thanks to Thacker NYC | Shoes: Sigerson Morrison (avail in black) – Similar Style

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  • I was looking all over for a 2009 photo to do my 10 year thing - and I finally realized why I don’t have any! Some of you may already know this, but in the beginning of 2009 I got into a bad snowmobile accident where I had to be airlifted to a hospital and ended up in a coma for 3 days and ended up having a huge hematoma in my head (thankfully it healed on its own) and I had to get surgery on my broken collarbone m that is now metal plated! You may have noticed I have one bumpy collarbone - that’s the one haha. That near death experience set in motion so many things that would change my life. Most importantly I started living life for myself, I thought about all the things I would have regretted if I actually died that day. I (first broke up with but then) got married to my love @tom_sandberg, started practicing yoga regularly, tried a lot of new hobbies including horseback riding, I had a baby, started my blog, quit my job, had another baby, and now I’m at this really weird point of life - trying to decide what’s next. Now that Sophia’s getting older I have slightly more time to invest in my career, and I’m still trying to figure out where exactly I want to put my energy. 2019 is my year of exploration ~ anyone else at a similar turning point??
  • Throwback to Sophia’s first birthday! She turns two soon and I’m at a loss for ideas...(Bahamian beach party isn’t in the cards this year) I’m a theme kinda girl so please share your ideas! #birthdaygirl #tropicalparty #bahamas
  • Notes on being an American born of Pakistani immigrants...
Thanks to @urdumom for the q’s - check my highlights for expanded answers
1. Were you ever labeled an ABCD? What did you feel about that? 
Ha! Yes - I would still consider myself an 'ABCD' (American born confused Desi) although I think 'intersectional' is what the kids are calling it these days. As a kid it was difficult navigating both cultures, simultaneously being both and neither. I still struggle with it, to be honest, but I'm just now beginning to see that it is such a blessing to be sort of an outsider. It ultimately made me much more emotionally intelligent, and also broadened my perspective. 
2. Did you get to travel to Pakistan with your parents as a kid? How was the experience? 
Yes! We traveled often - almost every year - and I absolutely loved it. As a kid it was fun playing with the goats and chickens in my dads village, or shopping in the huge maze of bazaars in the city. When I was in tenth grade, my parents even sent me to Pakistan because they thought I was getting too 'wild'. Long story short, they are so advanced in education in Pakistan, we realized me going to school there meant I had to go back two grade levels, so they gave up on that plan and the whole trip became an extended vacation. I was SO resentful that I had to come back to America! I LOVED Pakistan so much. But I also knew my parents were now out of major punishment options - so I fulfilled their prophecy and became pretty wild 😜 
3. Did you face bullying at school for being different? 
sure! My first name Itrat was something kids really liked to tease me about. 'It's a rat' was a fan favorite. Kids would laugh at me and say that my dad worked at the gas station while imitating an Indian accent like Apu from The Simpsons, and they would ask me why I'm not wearing a red dot. I remember once arguing with a girl who then called me a rag head, and I thought she meant my hair was raggedy, but my older brother filled me in that she was referencing our Muslim heritage. 
4. How did your parents keep your Pakistani roots alive at home? 
My parents are both from Pakistan, so we had the food, language, music, books
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  • Northern Cali folks, my sister Rania will be teaching a Spring course called Global Islam: Culture and Civilization - at American River College in (my hometown) Sacramento! The course is introductory but covers a wide breadth of topics including the origins of Islam, the Prophetic traditions, Arts and Literature, and modern concepts as well. There are still a couple of open spots so I wanted to spread the word in case anyone was interested! Swipe left for even more detail. Save this post, share it, spread the word! (Also side note: this is a throwback way back from Sophia’s baby shower - the most recent pic we have together because I was not about to post a flyer on the feed 💁🏾‍♀️)
  • All I need in this life of sin...p.s. a bunch of old guys kept asking us where we are ‘from’ (because obvs we couldn’t be from here 🙃) - and they couldn’t believe it was Pakistan either - im going to just say outer space next time...👽 #girlfriends #ladiesnight #gno
  • SO glad I forced myself to go out tonight with my girls, sometimes we forget how much we love each other’s company 💕 #gno #chicago #girls
  • She won’t even take a bite out of something she doesn’t like - I learn lessons from this QUEEN every damn day! 🙏🏾💕 👑 👧🏻
  • When you always think the song is about you 🎶 (Queen + Adam Lambert tour here we come!)
Also going to do more stand up comedy this year because, well - being a wife and mom - no one listens to me any more and I need my validation so...yeah
Also: wearing this coat all winter long because I’m a proud outfit repeater 👊🏽 (Also because I’m an old coat kind of girl  don’t @ me) ~
  • 1) hanging with my sister Nusrat who has been here visiting since New Year’s Eve - we are 13 months apart so basically we’re twins 👯 except when it comes to our personalities we are polar opposites ☯️ she has always been the one person who constantly humbled me  whenever I thought I was too cool (which was often) she would put me in my place (whether I liked it or not) and now as an adult I really appreciate that 
2) me doing Nusrat’s makeup as I’ve always been the resident makeup/hair/stylist in the family
 3) Sophia’s lewk 😍 
2019 is starting off pretty great I’d say!

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