Off Shoulder Lace + Date Night Look

I love me some off-shoulder tops, and here’s the latest in my growing collection. Loose and flowy, it was perfect to wear out to dinner over the weekend to celebrate our seven year wedding anniversary. We have been together for ten years total, which is hard for me to believe, but it is also just as hard for me to remember life before he was in it.

Here are seven of my favorite tips I’ve learned about marriage over the past seven years:

  1.  Have separate bathrooms – this one I got from the wise Todd Chrisley, of Chrisley Knows Best, a show I low-key love to watch. I know it is a good thing to feel comfortable in front of your spouse but there is something to be said about keeping a little mystery in your relationship.
  2.  Put your husband/wife first. This is especially true when you have kids, for them to understand you are a united front so they don’t cause a rift between you in an attempt to get their way – and try they will, trust me. It also goes for family, in-laws and extended family opinions should never be more important to you than your partner’s – the united front thing again.
  3. Inside Jokes – have them. Lots of them. They are especially helpful when you are really bored like on a flight or at the doctor’s office. Basically, keep things light and fun.
  4. Be sweet to each other. We are often nicer to strangers than our own loved ones because we take their existence for granted, and that’s not only wrong but it is a miserable way to live. Kiss goodnight, listen to each other, do nice things for one another.
  5. Don’t sweat the small things – like the messy closet or the toilet seat being up. Nobody is perfect. As long as the good stuff outweighs the bad, you are good.
  6. Get a life. Of your own, that is. Don’t expect your spouse to ‘complete you’ – you should already be complete on your own. Get a hobby, a job, immerse yourself in something you love, or just be content with yourself as-is. It makes you a much happier person.
  7. Finally, keep the spark alive. Make your date nights a priority, even when life is so busy that you don’t even have time to call a sitter. Force yourself to, you are almost always guaranteed to be glad you did. (I say almost because the first time we did a date night after Adam was born, we spent the entire time talking about him and missing him, wondering what he was doing, and then calling to check on him. Total first-time parent problems!) off-shoulder-top-chanel-boybaublebar-crispin vince-camuto-off-shoulder-top-levis-jeansTop | Pants | Earrings | Shoes | Bag

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Last week we took a quick trip to escape the snow for some sunshine in Key Largo, Florida☀️ We spent every moment possible outside, Tom and Adam got their Scuba Diver PADI certification (yay!) while Sophia and I spent our days either swimming or drawing marine life and landscapes. This was my first trip after my sister passed last November, and even though I look so happy here, there were so many moments I felt the grief and sadness, as if it happened just yesterday. I am still figuring out how I want to show up in this space, as I have changed so much as a person since the loss. I just don’t feel called to post some of the things I shared before. Maybe that will change someday, or maybe it will just naturally evolve into something new. I think I will take this year to just process it all. (Even the idea of taking an entire year to think through something is a huge shift for my usually hyperactive type A personality) My focus at the moment is just living in the moment with my family and friends, spending time doing things that make me happy and healthy. I hope to share some of that journey here with you ~ thanks for following along ❤️
I had planned to shoot this outfit in collaboration with @lenacoutureofficial right before my dear sister passed away. Saba, the designer, was more than understanding if I didn’t want to anymore - but after thinking on it for a while I decided I wanted to - in my sister’s honor 💗 She was always my biggest hype woman. When i would feel like I’m not good enough or that I should quit (which was often) she would tell me I was unique and great and to keep it up. When I think of my sister, beauty and love is all that she embodied in her being. She expressed that on the outside also - as she loved to wear everything glam, bright & colorful, and full of bling. Hair done, nails done, everything did - that was Nusrat. For this shoot I took the time to get glam after a long hiatus - and makeup and hair took so long because I think I forgot how to do it, but afterwards I was surprised how I felt transformed. When I wore this gorgeous outfit that I know was designed with such love and incredible attention to detail by @lenacoutureofficial, I felt all of that beauty - like a walking piece of art, and very much at peace. Thank you so much to @divmophoto for capturing the feeling so well 💕
Ski weekend with my favorites ❄️❄️ So proud of Sophia for skiing on her own for the first time!
There are some trees with seeds that only grow after a fire. Their seeds are completely sealed with a resin that have to be physically melted off by a great fire in order to propagate. So to do we as humans, gain wisdom only after great pain and suffering.*
A month ago (and one day) I lost my sister and best friend to cancer. I am still completely gutted and broken. But, I’m also so so grateful to have had felt the love that now brings me so much heartbreak. ❤️ I am so inspired by her - and I will forever live my life to honor her memory. Miss you sis ❤️
Classic outfit combo: oversized blazer + denim 🖤fendi mules @shoeslutz
Just a mom who loves mums 🌸 🪴
Cozy for a coffee date ☕️
French. Toast. Egg. Bake. Save this recipe for a weekend or holiday brunch - it’s SO good and fool-proof! I’m not even a sweet person and I love it. The pecans are a non-negotiable IMO - I get honey bourbon vanilla pecans for this and it is just heavenly. Enjoy!