Better Late: A Summer Story with Thacker NYC

But for real, I’m making some changes- in life – better late than never is my motto!

Well hello there friend! Welcome! I’ve got a few life updates to share with ya today! This post was hard to type, and that is not because I have some crazy long acrylic nails on right now – even though I do (seriously how do you girls do it?). But for real, I’m making some changes- better late than never is my motto!

Anyway, for the past five years since starting this blog I’ve had so many amazing experiences: from going to runway shows at NYFW to being a ‘Fashion Expert’ (side note: what IS that even?) on TV, being featured in magazines I only dreamt of being in, to attending countless Industry events where I met and befriended some of the most creative, talented, passionate people in the world.

But lately (for like the past two years or more actually), I’ve gotten a little a lot jaded. All the content I was seeing was the same, which was actually really boring to me. Not throwing shade I swear, I get it because to be successful in this game you can’t be ‘off brand’ and sometimes that means losing your true voice and unique personality.  I’ve been declining almost every ad or sponsor opportunity because I felt like I was being trapped to keep my content a certain way to please the brands I work with.

I started on my journey to find that spark I started this blog with, and just slowly started making changes without caring what the result would be. I stopped shopping at Zara and any other place I know has unethical labor practices, which also coincidentally is a turn off to many big brands (guilty, much?). And lastly, I started writing more open and honest blog posts and videos sharing my struggles with everything from religion to colorism. I told myself I’d take these next couple of years while Sophia is still a baby and explore and find what I really love to do and focus on that.

 I really love connecting with people, sharing life experiences. I also really love having fun making videos. And, I love making people laugh. So what I’ve decided I’m going to do is…(Drumroll…) Make funny videos! Yes you read that right. I’m too old and busy to be roaming around bars in Chicago doing open mic comedy shows, so I’m going to post them here. I’ve got some in the works and I already have some collaborations planned!

I tell you guys – once you decide to do something the universe makes it happen! I hope you stick with me in this new chapter of Love Zahra – and don’t you worry there will still be plenty of fashion and beauty because – your girl still gotta look fly! I mean…obviously!

Like today’s look, in this pretty and perfect-for-summer dress by Thacker NYC that has the cutest arm peeking out detail. Or my bright new bag that is the perfect orange sherbet creamsicle hue, something I also love to eat in the summer.

Thank you so much for visiting  – I love you – bye!

xx

Z
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How To Be Happy

Don’t be a clone – just be a clown!

If there is anything more certain to cause you distress, it is trying to be something you are not. Don’t live life for other people for fear of being judged or shamed because that only leads to resentment over time. You will definitely end up regretting not marrying who you love, not pursuing your dream career, or not speaking up against what you know is wrong.

Something I learned from my son Adam is: whatever it is that is stressing you out, whatever is keeping you from living your best life – because everyone’s got something- if there is anything that can cure, it is laughter. I’ll be smack in the middle of scolding him for misbehaving, threatening taking away one electronic device after another, and he will start making faces (like below) or, get ready for this, he can just will himself to fart – and of course we will all bust out laughing. (Side note: I learned in my stand up 101 class at Second City that farts are indeed, always funny). Not the highest form of humor, but it gets the job done.

Moral of the story, no matter how bad the situation – it is never as bad as we think. All you need to do to be happy is:  be yourself, focus on whats real, and find something to laugh about.

In other words: Don’t be a clone of someone else, just be a clown!

Who knew this little goofball would be teaching me the life lessons??

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