Shirtdress and Cut Out Booties

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Booties: Thanks to Sole Society | Shirtdress: Lulu’s (old) Similar Style (and see below for more similar styles) | Bag: Chloe | Sunnies: Miu Miu via Ditto.com – use my code LOVEZAHRA For a free trial!

I’ve always loved the Olympics, but most likely not for the same reasons everyone else does.My favorite part is seeing the countries of the world come together so peacefully, knowing that it is possible, even if it is just for sport. Never have I been so proud to be American as I am now watching our Olympic athletes officially killing it at the Rio games (minus the Ryan Lochte robbery debacle, of course). This excitement, however is tinged with a good amount of frustration by all of the sexist commentary by the news media, who focus on the physical appearance and other irrelevant information tossed in casually when chatting up female athletes. I watched a brilliant video where they asked male athletes the same questions that were asked of females – and their reaction was a hilarious mix of confusion, laughter, (because obviously the reporter was joking) or even annoyance and a little anger – (i.e. when a player was asked to ‘twirl’ for the camera).

It is 2016 and as far as we have progressed in the world, we have much work to do. When wet suits are allowed in France but not “Burqini’s”, we have a cultural problem. As depicted so perfectly in this drawing by anonymous French artist – women’s bodies are always going to be unfairly criticized, whether covered or not. Our Female Presidential candidates are also judged extremely harsh in comparison to certain male Presidential candidates who seem to get a pass for every insane, bigoted, racist, or just plain ignorant statement he makes.  On a smaller scale men get paid more for the same work in almost every profession, and in my observation, male artists get more attention and praise than their female counterparts. Even in the Fashion Industry that caters to mostly women, most of the prominent designers, makeup artists, and photographers are male. Why is this? Because even women, subconsciously or not, perpetuate the ideas ingrained in us by our Patriarchal society, that men are smarter, stronger, better, and women should be seen and not heard.    

I remember my first day of jr. high when an older classmate (who was also a bully and was rumored to be in a gang) asked me in a very Regina George in ‘Mean Girls’ kind of way, if I thought I was pretty, and I was almost sure she would have at the very least made fun of me, or worst case beat me up if I answered yes, so I sheepishly said no, and then she, obviously pleased with my answer, proceeded to tell me that I had really pretty eyes, and she made me agree with her and even asked her friends to agree with her. I was mortified, but I internalized the idea that it is never okay to think you are pretty, at least not out loud.

Today women are not only expected to be beautiful (but not believe it), ambitious, successful in both career-ing and mother-ing, remembering to always ‘Lean In’ a little, but also expected to maintain the warm, friendly, humble to a fault demeanor that is palatable to society. It makes me wonder sometimes if we have actually progressed as a society or have we simply morphed into something even more detrimental to our well being. 

The biggest problem with the expectations we unfairly put on women is that it is pretty much impossible to achieve this level of perfection, but it also leaves women feeling perpetually inadequate and ultimately unhappy. When was the last time you looked in the mirror and said (in your Beyonce voice) ‘I look so good tonight…I’m Flawless!’ Is your answer never? You are definitely not alone. 

But I’m not here to bring you down today by listing all of the injustices we women face, because I truly believe as women we are inherently built strong enough to face any challenge that comes our way.

I stumbled upon an IG account by a wonderful and totally inspiring woman that you absolutely need to follow, Sophie Roe, who reminded me that we all need to take some time to sit quietly, focus on appreciating all of the things we take for granted, taking stock of the moment that we are in now instead of waiting for that elusive future date when x,y, or z will occur, then we can actually (theoretically) find happiness in our journey and therefore also our selves. I sometimes think about all of the things women could do, or create, if we didn’t spend our precious time worrying about losing weight, whether or not we need botox, or Keeping up with the Kardashians.  

Because as the saying goes, life isn’t a destination, it is a journey, and we should be enjoying the ride. That is, while we continue to challenge the Patriarchy, while looking flawless in a shirt dress and ankle booties, of course.

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Glitter Smoking Slippers

Today is Adam’s first day of Kindergarten and I thought I had it all together until I saw him wave his last goodbye and that is precisely when I lost it. I am so excited for him to begin this new chapter of his life, but also terrified that he is officially out of the bubble of safety that we have so lovingly created for him, and worried about all the hypothetical scenarios he may face in the ‘real world’. I know this is only the beginning of my ‘letting go’ as a mom, but does it really have to be this hard???

We shot these pics over the weekend (before Adam was a Kindergartener… *sniff*), I was itching to try out my new glitter smoking slipper – which will no doubt carry me through Fall. I’m officially a flats girl especially on weekends or anytime I’m with Adam because he keeps me running around constantly. I kept my outfit cool for the crazy heat we’ve been having with some lightweight joggers and a halter sweater tank. I love how the glitter texture makes the whole look much more interesting – like wearing jewelry on your feet.

Today was supposed to be a very productive day, seeing that now I have a full day to myself – but I think I will just take a few hours to  cry and replay the videos I made this morning of Adam getting ready for his first day, then walking out with his cute backpack on, then saying goodbye with that huge smile. Sigh…wish me luck guys!
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Shoes: Thanks to Sole Society | Top: Thanks to Tommy Bahama | Bracelet:Thanks to J.Jill – Part of the Compassion Fund – 100% of net proceeds go to provide support to community-based organizations that help disadvantaged and homeless women become more self-sufficient. | Bag: Chanel – Similar Style | Sunglasses: Miu Miu – via Ditto.com (use code LOVEZAHRA For a free trial!) | Pants: H&M Conscious Collection – Similar Style (on clearance!) |

Trasnsitional Style with Sage Threads & Co

 

Thanks for visiting! I am back after the longest hiatus I’ve ever taken since I started this blog way back in 2012 – I went one full week without posting! Granted I still posted here and there on social media – I had to make sure everyone knew I was still alive lest they start worrying about me. In any other job I’ve ever worked in my life, I would take vacations, and that meant to completely leave behind any work related thoughts or worries and recharge. But for some reason since I started blogging, I never made that same connection to taking time off – since it is my job but also my life – my ‘vacations’ actually turned out to be even more work than usual. The feeling of not working was very strange, but ultimately I decided it was necessary and also liberating.

Today’s post is a brand new Blogger Nation collaboration featuring pieces you can wear now and into fall from Sage Threads Co., which is an online retailer curated with the perfect boho chic essentials. Everything from breezy blouses to dresses, denim, and accessories. I love that I can find pieces here that aren’t everywhere else, so I can make my look uniquely my own. One of my go to favorite outfits is pairing a simple cami with jeans for a casual everyday style – this one I’m wearing has an extra cute lace detail on the neck and armholes that make it really different. I wore this with boyfriend jeans and heels for brunch a week ago, and again this weekend with skinny jeans and slides for running some errands and shopping. For fall I will layer it under a great leather jacket or sleek blazer.

Off to get this Monday started! Have a great week xx

free-people-cami-tank-sage gucci-loafer-slides sage-threads-cami-tank-free-people sage-threads-co-cami-tankTop: Thanks to Sage Threads Co. | Slides: Gucci | Jeans: Zara – similar style | Bag: Givenchy Similar Style  and Similar Style (under $60!) | Necklace: Thanks to Kendra Scott | Sunnies: Miu Miu via Ditto  (get a free trial of their Endless Eyewear program with code LOVEZAHRA)